Facebook, Facebook on the Wall, who is the fairest of all?
by Craig Blewett

"Wow, you look great in that photo, Jess!"

"LOL, see what Maggie is wearing there standing at the back behind Dan! I'd never be seen going out like that!"

Comments like these are very common on social networks like Facebook and MySpace. As these digital meeting places become the standard place to share news, photos and idle chat, they also become the places where self-worth, perceptions and even values are created. With millions of users signing up every month, more and more are looking at their Facebook wall as a mirror of who they are, or should become. However, unlike a real mirror that reflects reality, the enchanted Facebook mirror reveals the hidden and feared images of the heart, most often those related to imagined inadequacies.

It's a constant game of comparison. In fact new research conducted by Dr Derek Lackaff and Dr Devan Rosen, is suggesting that women who base their self worth on appearance are most affected by this digital mirror. "Those whose self-esteem is based on public-based contingencies (defined here as others' approval, physical appearance and outdoing others in competition) were more involved in online photo sharing," said Dr Stefanone from the University of Buffalo.

This constant gazing into the Facebook mirror often does not provide the affirmation that the gazers seek, but rather can have the opposite effect. It can result in what is now being called "Facebook depression". This new term has been coined to explain a startling problem facing many Facebook users. With all the photos, friend-counts, and status updates, people are constantly trying to keep up, or just feel adequate. Whether it is the amazing photo that someone has posted of themselves (chosen from many to look so good), or the daunting number of friends others seem to have (which obviously means popularity), the effect is the same - inadequacy. The more the beholder tries to garner more friends, post better photos, make wittier comments, the more the mirror reflects their inadequacy to measure up.

It's a sad fact that so much of our modern day image is based around looks, yet as long as this is the case, the magical power of the illusion depicted by the Facebook wall will remain.

"Facebook, Facebook on the wall, who is the fairest of all?"

"You are fair, 'tis true, but Jess is fairer than you!"

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About the Author - Craig is a senior University lecturer in Information Technology and the lead researcher on a project that is investigating ways to use the Internet in effective ways for education. Craig runs a variety of seminars and workshops on Internet dangers for schools and other organisations. For more visit http://www.craigblewett.com

Sources:
 http://www.newser.com/story/115046/new-woe-for-teens-facebook-depression.html
 http://www.buffalo.edu/news/12339

 


Comments

06/02/2011 12:57am

That is actually very true.. This is especially true for those who place their self worth on the outside view.. which is probably about 60% of the world's population.. This indeed is a heart problem, and even though I don't have a phD, I propose a solution: it is found on the topmost, second from left tab of this very website.

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05/09/2012 12:15am

Nice information regarding the facebook. Comments like these are very common. I wanted to thank you for this great article. I enjoyed every single part of it and I will be waiting for the new updates.

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06/25/2012 10:34pm

Giving comments and feedback on wall is a great option provided by facebook. By this on ecan get +ve and -ve feedbacks.

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09/19/2012 9:43pm

Hello there! I must tell you the blog post is really good. It is very informative. I want to mention one thing that I like the way you write the post to the point. I really appreciate and keep writing!

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07/11/2012 1:00am

This is really enjoying read for me. You prove that you are great researcher.

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08/21/2012 11:47am

Thanks it was a read that worth the time people can be mis leaded on facebook and therefore it is important to be very careful on it.

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12/30/2012 9:28pm

The name of the service stems from the colloquial name for the book given to students at the start of the academic year by some university administrations in the United States to help students get to know each other. Thanks.

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06/03/2013 2:52am

The usage of social networking sites are increasing day by day. New and more members are joining in the family. Face book and twitter is the number one in that. The comments that you got for the photo that you posted on face book is interesting.

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